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Spice up your sex life and heat things up in the bedroom with these kinky sex tips

Here’s a fun fact for you –  the Journal of Sexual Medicine have found that people who engage in a little kink are happier and more secure in their relationships than those who do not bring kink into the bedroom. With this in mind, we’ve asked the guys at Simplypleasure.com, an award winning company with over 37 years experience in the adult and sex toy industry, to explain what ‘kink’ is and how it can spice things up in the bedroom.

What is kink?

Pushing boundaries in the bedroom can really bring you closer to your partner as you undertake an excite and intimate adventure together. Indulging your kinks together builds your trust and allows you to safely experiment with control. Kink includes anything that really challenges you as a couple in the bedroom – from dirty talk to dress-up, role-play and even adding a prop or two (we’ll get to this bit later!)

When it comes to kink, you don’t have to go all Christian Grey on your other half to see the incredible benefits it can bring to your sex life. From light bondage like using a blindfold to spanking and using a pair of cuffs, kink takes many forms and you can tailor your beginner’s experience to push boundaries – at your own pace.

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Shake up your senses

From touch and taste to sight and even hearing – the more you engage your senses during kink, the more you’ll get out of it. From the satisfying sound of a whip or a paddle to the way your partner looks in latex – enhancing the visual and auditory atmosphere of your encounter really sends your senses into overdrive. Add a subtle medical device like a pinwheel to your sesh or be a little more daring with nipple clamps or an e-stim vibrator. A sensory shake-up is perfect for kicking of your kinky encounter!

Add visual impact

Control is an important part of kink and when you look the part, you can really feed into the Sub and Dom fantasy. You don’t have to wear bodycon latex or rubber – just adding a touch of texture will switch up the intensity. From suspenders and stockings for the recently initiated to more risqué outfits for kinky pros, like a catsuit or a fitted basque, the right outfit gets your message across loud and clear. (We love the Allure Kitten range for some fetish inspired favourites!) http://www.simplypleasure.com/by-brand/allure.html

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Communicate

With kink, communication really is key. Talking to your partner about your wants and needs gives you a chance to really get your fantasies out in the open, and gives you partner the opportunity to explore them with you. You might be surprised to learn that your partner shares the same curiosity for kink as you do – the only way to know is to talk about it. During any kinky encounter, it’s important to communicate with your partner and always make sure they’re comfortable with any boundaries beforehand. We always recommend a safe word to let your partner know it’s time to slam on the brakes.

Pull out the props

While we don’t all need a Red Room, adding props to your pleasure really amps up your kinky experience. From latex and rubber outfits to a steel pinwheel, a paddle, whips, chains and cuffs  – your kinky accessories can be as demure or as daring as you like. To start, a subtle blindfold is perfect for adding the element of surprise, making every light touch intense as your partner won’t expect it. You don’t have to go for hard and heavy cuffs either – simple satin ties like this pair from Lelo ( http://www.simplypleasure.com/lelo-boa-pleasure-ties-silk-restraints-all.html)  are all you need to feel dominant and in control.

Fire up your fantasies

Kink is all about bringing your fantasies to life and adding a naughty new dimension to your sex life. Fantasy engages your brain (the one part of your body you really do need for mind-blowing sex!) and allows you to indulge in play as an alter-ego. If you’ve ever been a little timid to try something out in the bedroom, transforming yourself into someone else before you give it a shot adds heaps of confidence to your kinky interlude. For instant impact try a sexy fantasy costume from Simplypleasure.com 

Find everything you need to indulge your kinks at Simplypleasure.com – from cuffs and clamps to latex lingerie that will make your partner do a Dominatrix double-take!

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Rachel is the beauty and fashion director at IDEAL. She loves trying new products and is an avid fan of London's fashion, from the high end to the high street.