Going online to find love shouldn’t be considered a dating panacea though. It shouldn’t be the only tool in your dating toolkit, but it can’t be ignored either. But make sure you go in with your eyes wide open. It’s not a place for blind oblivion or naïve trust.
In its defence, online dating is an option that is easy to use and access and it can open up refreshing new avenues for singles tired of the same old dating routine. It’s a chance to make connections you could not make any other way. And, it allows you to expand your options, create your own opportunities, have some fun, and yes, even learn a little something. LA Johannesson author of ‘eloves me, eloves me not’ gives IDEAL readers her expert advice on online dating and what we can learn from it!
HOW TO PUT YOUR BEST FOOT FORWARD
The process almost forces you to learn to put your best dating foot forward. It gives you the chance to focus on the wonderful and unique person you are, to communicate your special style and present yourself through words, photos and video. But, it’s competitive. To succeed you have to need a great profile and photos to match. But powerful self-promotion also includes sharing your thoughts, interests, desires and dreams.
WHAT YOUR LOOKING FOR
The selection process asks you to make decisions about your preferred mate from hair colour to location, from education to height, from boy type to dating goals. This can be very enlightening. Just ticking the search box criteria defining your ultimate mate may have you pondering your wants for the first time. Or it may just help you to refine the vision of your Mr or Ms Right.
EXPAND YOUR EXPERIENCES
Both the sheer number and the diversity of people using online dating will expose you to new and different sorts that you may have not have met if you had stuck with the same old dating practices.
WHAT YOU DON’T WANT
A quick scan through the profiles will surely help you to identify those things that irk you, those turnoffs, and those characteristics that don’t appear anywhere on your wish list. Whether it’s a house full of cats, use of the word ‘irregardless’ or big bushy neck beards, learning more about what you don’t want will ultimately serve you in better understanding what it is you do.
THERE ARE OTHER PEOPLE OUT THERE
Online dating teaches you that there are many other singles out there searching for love. The numbers clearly state that you are not alone!
YOU CAN’T HURRY LOVE
And finally, trying online dating may teach you one very clear lesson. In this contemporary quest for love, you may have all the best intentions, you may try all the options, do all the work, pursue all the avenues, expend all the effort imaginable and still find that love eludes you and is working to an agenda all its own.
You may learn that as the song says, “you can’t hurry love”. But, by giving online dating a shot, you can learn a few useful dating lessons and it’ll certainly keep things interesting while you’re waiting for it.